Valentine’s Day

If all you know about Valentine’s Day is from the adds on TV and Facebook then you think Valentine’s Day is all about sex. Now as important as sex is in a healthy marriage relationship, our culture has put the cart before the horse. Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Sex isn’t love. In marriage, sex is a healthy expression of the love that exists between a husband and a wife.

So, today let’s take the focus off sex and put the focus on love. Let’s not look to Valentine’s Day as a day where we focus on what we want out of our relationships. Let’s spend today focused on what we want to give to our relationship. Let’s focus on sacrificing our self for the one we love. That, after all, is what true love is; giving of yourself sacrificially to another. That’s what Jesus did when he came to earth for us.

Invest yourself in your marriage today. Start by taking at least 15 minutes to thank God for the person he gave you in marriage. Make sure it’s at least 15 minutes. That will help you to be specific about all the things that you are thankful for. It will help you focus on them rather than one yourself. It will help you stop taking them for granted and to see the wonderful gift that God has given you. Then confess to God your sins in your marriage. Confess to God the times that you’ve been selfish and seeking to be fulfilled in your marriage rather than fulfill your spouse. After that, pray that God will help you to be a better husband or wife. Pray that God will show you how to better invest in that relationship. Finally, think of at least one creative way to express your love for your spouse today. Enjoy each other today and allow this celebration of love to be a catalytic experience that draws you closer to each other in a more vibrant and fulfilling marriage.

Happy Valentine’s Day!


~ by bryonharvey on February 14, 2009.

One Response to “Valentine’s Day”

  1. It is actually sad how our culture perverts sex, love, and intimacy. I’m not sure if American culture even knows the difference between these. I recently traveled to central Europe- most specifically, Germany, Czech Republic, Slovikia, and Austria. I noticed that these cultures knew more about love and affection than Americans go. Even in television ads and billboards portrayed beauty in love rather than some raunchy portrayal of women as sex kittens and men as way to get the prize. I think as Americans our culture throws sex in our face as equal to love rather than a beautiful part of it. Ha, I’ve personally never like Valentines Day or Sweetest Day because I believe that God wants us to appreciate and invest in those relationships every day rather than just a couple times of year.

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